Hi there,
Sarah here from sexgear.co.nz,
Good on you for making the effort to work on your sex life!!! A bullet is a good starters toy

Maybe you could talk to her about how she would like to spice things up and you both could look at the Sexgear website and choose some toys together. That way you are both get excited when the parcel turns up at the door
I have a few recommendations on some items that would be a good starting point to ease you into using toys:
Yours and Mine couples Lubricants - When the individual lubricants mix during sex, they combine to create an exciting sensation.
http://sexgear.co.nz/lubricant/ky/yours-and-mine-couples-lubricants/ Ostrich Feather Stix - An incredibly affordable way to bring a new sensation into the bedroom! Before indulging your partner in a sensual massage, trail these incredibly soft ostrich feathers over their naked skin... we recommend adding a blindfold into the mix to really heighten the feeling of this erotic couples toy.
http://sexgear.co.nz/bondage-gear/spankers-and-paddles/ostrich-feather-stix/Strict Leather Purple Fur Lined Blindfold -This leather blindfold has comfortable synthetic fur on the inside. Its elastic band will fit both men and women.
http://sexgear.co.nz/bondage-gear/masks-blindfolds/leather-purple-fur-lined-blindfold/Hope this helps and have fun
Sarah
Sexgear.co.nz