Anal Sex & The P-Spot

[AexCN625]

So. A thread that specifically addresses anal sex and the p-spot, which off the top of my head is the male equivalent to the female's g-spot. Call me naive, but I say that w/ reservation as apparently, in 2002, it was declared that females have prostates as well. Whether they produce the same or similar reaction, I'll leave for research for other ppl

ANYHOO, for those in the know and those w/ experience - anal sex and the p-spot. For each of these, what made you first think about it and what made you first act on it?

Cheers ears

[digital_sinnah]

hmmm...good question (as always Aex )

curiosity... need for different stimulus... perhaps it was just a natural progression of exploration. I had read of some others experiences on other forums and thought...wow - that could be worth a crack ('xcuse the pun...)
Honestly, I think it's healthy to experiment (within reason of course) and to discover new sensations with your own body.

Well, that's my 2 cents worth...

[Lilbabychick]

Haha..."crack"! That cracked me up.

Anyway, to answer both your questions Aex, all it took was 1 horny bi-sexual boyfriend (Who i honestly think has watched too many pornos). He suggested it, i thought well i suppose ill give it a go and then yeh. Although im picky as to who i do it with. For me, it takes a hell of a lot of trust in the person. I dont just go for it everytime im having sex. I have to be in the right kind of mood too. But once im into it im one crazy lil lady.

[AexCN625]

cool, thanks for sharing. two more questions that don't necessarily relate to each other, and aren't expected to have the answers shared if you don't wish to:

Number A:] Have you explored it on your own?

Number B:] How long did it take before you were really comfortable w/ it?

DISCLAIMER: Bad grammar intended.

[Sarah]

Hi all,

If you are interested in this topic we sent out a newsletter last year which contained the article ‘the back door breakdown’, it gives a good introduction and you can read it here: http://sexgear.co.nz/archive/back_door.htm.

Take care,
Sarah and the SG Team

[Charlee]

Hiya
I am a woman and spontaneously started experimenting with anal play about a year ago now. It was always something I said I would "never" do, despite being fairly liberal in other ways, so I don't know what made me try it in the end. Curtiosity I guess! I started just using a finger and was rather surprised to discover that I quite enjoyed it. Since then I have acquired a couple of toys specific to that area, and while I haven't had anal yet it's something I am building up to-I agree with the above comment that a lot of trust and communication is involved. I'm still trying to convince my man to give it a go himself though

[dave28]

Does anyone have any tips for how to get started with anal exploration? I've always been curious but to date haven't gone there. Thanks.

[Charlee]

Hi Dave28,
My advice would be give yourself plenty of time in a warm, comfortable environment where you won't be interupted (in the shower works if you have silicone lube or just in bed at night), so you can fully relax. Start by just exploring the general area-use a bit of lube on your finger and just massage around your perenium etc gently-this will help you relax more and give you a sense of just how sensitive and pleasurable the whole area really is! For penetration start with something small (like a small butt plug-make sure whatever you use has a wide handle so it doesnt go in too far), and LOTS of high quality lube (but check your toys-dont use silicone lube with silicone toys). Use the toy to do the same thing your finger was doing, and then when it's in the right place just start putting a bit of pressure on it to slide it in. If it's uncomfortable or painful, slow down and add more lube. Lube is essential! But once you get started you will be able to judge how much you can handle. It didn't take me long to go in search of a larger toy after my initial investigations... also it can help sometimes to "bear down" with the muscles in your anus-like you are going to the toilet-as this relaxes the opening and makes penetration easier.

If you are concerned about mess etc it helps if you have been to the toilet a few hours before, and you might feel more comfortable about it if you have a shower or bath first. But, lets be honest, it's an anus right, so don't expect it to be as clean as a whistle. It's really not that big a deal though.

Hope that helps! The biggest key is to relax and use plenty of lube.

[Jan123]

Hi Charlee - great post. I am getting intrigued. anal sex isn't something i have really given much thought to

[Charlee]

Thanks! I think it's great that people can use this forum to ask the questions they may be a bit to embarrassed about to ask in person and get replies from people who have had their own experiences and don't mind sharing

And I have to admit that sex in general is something I give A LOT of thought to haha! I will give anything a try once-who knows what you might enjoy...