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[Harold'sway]

I know this is a bit of a taboo subject, but I have heard lots of discussion on this topic. Is it ok to go to a swinging party as a couple? How do you find out about them? what types of people go? and do you need to be introduced by someone. My wife & I are kinda intrigued..

[maryqc]

Hi, I live in Hamilton and I would like to know if there is a club in my area. Thanks

[hip2bsquare]

Hi Mary qc you should look into CLub Fun4all. I think they arrange events all over the north island, including hamilton.

[Sarah]

Hi guys, great to see you all talking about such an interesting subject! Swinging is not just partner-swapping. It covers a range of sexual activities, from exhibitionism (enjoying having sex in front of an audience), voyeurism (enjoying watching others having sex), partial swapping (kissing, touching, fondling other partners) and full swaps and group sex. Swinging is most commonly practised by married couples. To successfully introduce swinging into your realtionship, it is important that the couple is 100% commited to each other and 100% happy to explore sexual satisfaction from other partners while remaining ulitmately loyal to and considerate of their true partner. A swinging couple may engage in sexual activities with another couple, mulitple other couples or just a single. Swinging can take place at a specifically designed club or at a swinging house party - usually hosted by prominent members of the swinging community. It is a good idea for a couple looking to try swinging to find a an experienced swinger in their area ( try surfing the net or newspaper classifieds). Then you can get some first-hand advice and also start to make contacts with other swinging couples. If you would like more info, you can check out our brand new swinging DVD here http://sexgear.co.nz/books-dvds/couples-dvds/1/

[digital_sinnah]

great response Sarah. This has been a topic of conversation occasionally between my S.O and myself. Yet we have never had the nerve to go further. We do know of ClubSE in Chch...but have yet to venture out. Honestly for me, I can bring this further out than just a fantasy. I would love to know if any others here have been to that particular events place and how did they find it. Thanks in advance

[AexCN625]

Hey digital_sinnah

I checked out the link you gave for Club SE and I checked it out. Sounds like a really interesting place and it's something that I'm keen to visit one day. Although, I'm a bit iffy on the entry as they give the thumbs up or down at door entry - never encountered that before, but that's cos of my lack of social experience in town.

I, too, am interested in stories and experiences of ppl who have done or are doing this.

Ta muchly.

[digital_sinnah]

agreed Aex. The web site does give good information. Also the part about NO single guys is always a good thing.
Maybe one day we'll pluck up the courage - although it is slightly over priced too in my opinion

[jaxjaxster]

Hi guys,

My partner and I (I'm a female) have been in the chch swinging scene for 18 months and really enjoy ourselves. Club SE is a great place to go and check out, although it does cost $60 a couple for a night and you can't guarantee how many people will be there. We mainly meet people through on line sites... nzpersonals is reliable. There are other clubs in Auckland and Welly that I know of.
You need to be, as someone else has said, completely committed to each other and this is an add on to your life, not to save a marriage or to take it over. You need to be very honest at all stages as there can be jealousy and there should be equal enthusiasm from both of you... no coercion!
It's been a great way for us to both explore our bi sexual tenancies and we have met some amazingly wonderful and fun people.
set boundaries about what is acceptable and what isn't and stick to them until re-negotiated.... they may loosen or change as time goes by, but do set some in place... such as do you swap partners, have full sex, only oral and fondling, same room only but no swap, always playing together etc.... takes a lot of thinking through...