How often do you have sex?

[Harrier]

I guess everyone is curious about this one aye? Would just be nice to know if your 'normal'....So I'll start! When single: pretty much never as not huge fan of one night stands...can be very frustrating times but have been known to go as long as 18mths. When starting new relationship: 5-6 times a week, pretty much whenever I see the person - coz it's just so excitng at that stage! About 6 months into the relationship: Usually 2-3times a week full sex but other stuff....cheeky morining hand action LOL! 3 years into a relationship: 1-2times a week. When the relationship is nearing the end: never. Right I was honest - you tell me yours!

[Dusty]

HI Harrier, yep, good question! It is always something that I wonder too. My boy and I have been together for about 4 years, not married yet, but are living together. Things were really heated to begin with, but it is amazing how as the months and years roll on, you tend to let 'life' slip in between the sheets! We are now only having sex about once or twice a week, and even then I could easily just roll over! On reflection it is not really good enough - I want the passion back.......

[maryqc]

Together 20years, married 17 of those - usually have sex about 7-10times per month....

[jackcollins]

I am a man in relationship with a gal. We usually do it 5-6 times in a week.
We have been in a relationship for 2 yrs.

[aprilia]

not as often as I would like! but life gets in the way sometimes, I work shifts and we only get 1 weekend a month together so that is a bit difficult. Because there is a bit of an age gap (yes I am the older woman!) I do wonder if he is getting bored and frustrated, I know I am but, I guess we just keep working at it and I hope to God that he is happy with what he has and doesn't want something younger and more available.

[AexCN625]

My current and I have been together since August 24 '08 and we've had sex 14 times in the 4 month period. Seriously. It's not as frequent as I used to have it in past relationships, but it still feels absolutely great being with her. Normally I would be feeling sexually frustrated, but I'm not! It's weird and cool at the same time.

She's also a late bloomer and is therefore new to the sex scene so she's very nervous and shy about the sexploration thing so she is getting used to it - mentally, emotionally and physically.

- Aex CN-625

[digital_sinnah]

nice post Aex.
We are in a true lull at the moment. Here's my honesty..LOL! We both are busy with life - and I know that is such a crappy cop-out but it happens. But really after 13 years of marriage we have had our highs and lows. When it's high - it's intense. when it's low - it's L O W !! But what ever the situation - we're still together and still communicating. Sex frequency seems to be placed rather highly but as we all know - everyone is different and relationships vary so much.

[hushpuppy]

Hi; Me and my boyfriend have sex about once every 2 weeks. We have to schedule it when he is at my place and we don't have flatmates around. Proves to be quick tough. Am enjoying it though. He is only my 2nd partner.

[Jan123]

Currently about 4 times a week, but must admit sometimes it is pretty quick!!

[Charlee]

Hi everyone,

I'm in a long-distance relationship so that changes things a bit I think. We see each other maybe 3-4 days once every 3 weeks or so, and occasionally spend about a week together, however over xmas/new years we were together for 3 weeks. So it really varies haha. Because we don't see each other often things are usually pretty heated and it might be twice a day. But we have been together for 4 years and there does come a point where it's not such a priority all the time (but as someone mentioned above it's not always about "sex" as such-there are other ways to be intimate and keep things interesting)...

For those of you who have mentioned a slump of sorts in your longterm relationships/sex lives...maybe some of the advice and discussions from other places in this forum could help spice things up a bit? Try taking some dedicated time out to spend time with each other regularly-like dinner out and then treat him/her to a massage at home. Sometimes it can be easy to not make the effort, but speaking from experience once one person makes a move the other will most likely meet them half way, and then the rest is history so to speak