threesome?

[stacey]

A couple I have recently come into connact with, but never met are suggesting we have a threesome. They say they have done it before, and have rules. They are prepared to travel thousands of kilometres to do this (well, to do me really ). They both seem really nice. But I have been warned not to proceed by another friend . I'm not sure what to do as would like to do this and know they would too, I also feel I would be letting them down if I refused, but is this appropriate and are they just using me?

[Vickstar]

HI Stacey - interesting post... I see you dilemma...
Hey I have a question for (hope you don't mind but I am really interested.) Can I please ask what the rules were? I have often thought about what the whole Threesome thing would be like, and I really wouldn't know where to start. Can you tell me a bit more about how this would actually work?....
Thanks in advance

[AexCN625]

heya

a threesome is a very intimate sexual situation to be a part of and from what I've gathered in my research, is usually done with people who are REALLY familiar with each other.

Important factors to include are:
1:] Type of couple - M/F; F/F; M/M
2:] Your familiarity of the couple, or one of them.
3:] Experience of all people involved - in threesomes and sex in general
4:] Security (physical, mental, emotional) of yourself - the others obviously have no problem or have overcome theirs, if any existed.
5:] Health - mental, physical, biological. Does anyone have anything that another may not like/want?

As w/ Vickstar, I am also interested in knowing what rules they have. They would help gauge what they are like and more importantly, whether you are comfortable with them.

The distance between you and the couple is it actually thousands of KMs - are they from a different country? It seems to be an expensive exercise.

I'd also be interested in your friend's reason(s) for you not to participate.

But in regards of sexual exploration, I would say try it out; but at the same time, I would also suggest being picky about whom you do it with. I've been in a threesome once before (M/F/F). It was an average experience, but the two chicks I was with were people I didn't know. If you are going to participate, I think it should be because you are comfortable with EVERY single factor you can think of. If you are uncomfortable with something, but go through with it anyway, that potentially is harmful.

Without sounding sleazy, because I'm not - at least, I'm pretty sure I'm not lol - I would like to know your decision. And if it's even possible for me to avoid being rude and intrusive, I'd like to know your feedback on it.

I hope this helps.

Best wishes.

[stacey]

They live in the same country, but at the other end. I don't know them, either of them, very good.
It would be a male and female couple. (so M/F/F).
They havn't told me the rules yet, but when I find out, u'll be the first to know. . . . Although he said that Im not allowed to kiss him.
Ill keep you posted.

[stacey]

The rules.
use protection at all times.
If any of us fell uncomforable at any time, we stop.
Everyone present when any sexual contact occurs.
And, as I said, the guy can not kiss me.

[Lilbabychick]

Ok i have to say this all seems a lil weird. Id personally never get into any situation like that with people i did not know. You dont know...... They might turn out to be crazies......Too dangerous. Also, How can you be expected not to get any kisses! They are a major part of sex......personally they are a huge turn on.....especially the big sloppy ones!

[Vickstar]

Hi Stacey
thanks for being upfront with the rules etc. I am really interested in knowing more.... it is one of those things that everyone wants to know about, but doesn't have anyone to ask..... I have another few questions:
1) Where would this take place? Your place, their place, hotel, etc
2) Does it start with dinner and drinks, or do you just met and get straight to it?
3) Are people generally sober? or does it take a few to loosen up (if know what I mean?)
and would you see them again afterwards?

[AexCN625]

The rules.
use protection at all times.
If any of us fell uncomforable at any time, we stop.
Everyone present when any sexual contact occurs.
And, as I said, the guy can not kiss me.

Hey stacey

how do these rules make you feel about it all?

[stacey]

i'm not sure. I want to have one. But they do seem a little strange.
The rules seem to be ok, apart from not kissing him, I am allowed to kiss her as much as we want tho.(Never kissed a girl before). An I understand the protection thing, but dislike using it.

[AexCN625]

Uh oh, if you think they're a lil "strange", then that has to be an alarm of sorts. I've had a decent chat w/ Lilbabychick and we find it weird that you can't kiss the guy. Are you two allowed penetration?

I recently had a threesome and the only rule there was if someone was feeling uncomfortable w/ anything, everyone stops; or if someone was feeling uncomfortable w/ a particular act, then the act would be ignored. There was no pressure and no expectations, other than to enjoy the experience. Rules of engagement to an encounter such as this are totally recommended IMHO, but rules that limit certain acts between certain people (even if they consent to it) seems a bit restrictive and potentially inhibit the original fun intended by a 3sum.

I know you're wanting to be involved in something like this, but perhaps for this couple in particular, it might be a good idea to pass on it.

PS: As for your comment on protection, while I sympathise, especially for encounters w/ people you don't know, they are a definite good thing to have. Bringing a box shouldn't hurt and you may not end up using it, but guns and condoms are the same (apparently) - tis better to have one and not need it, than to need one and not have it.