Self Magazine Sex

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Self Magazine Sex

Postby sabani321 » Thu May 14, 2009 8:57 am

I did this interview almost a year ago when the writer called to ask if I could offer advice on how women can turn sex into a more frequent habit. At first I did a double-take, wondering if it was a serious request. However, the writer explained that the article was intended to gather sex advice from unusual sources. I’d never given much thought to applying habit formation techniques to sex before, but I thought… why not? Habits play a significant role in physical intimacy.
In the article I suggest turning physical intimacy into a habit by using the 30-day trial approach. Every day for the next 30 days, devote 30-60 minutes to talking, snuggling, cuddling, massage, and of course, sex with your partner. As the article accurately quotes me, “That time becomes sacred couple-intimacy time with no interruptions. The commitment to spend time alone together every day for 30 days will create the space for your sex life to blossom.”
If the trial doesn’t produce the results you want, you can begin a new 30-day trial of something different or return to the old habit. But by then the new habit will already be established, so if you wish to continue, it won’t be so difficult because momentum will be on your side.
I hadn’t envisioned this particular application when I first wrote about the 30-day trial method, but it’s nice to see that personal development techniques can even enhance our sex lives.
Five million women have just been told that I’m a sex expert.
There’s no way I can top that one. My life is all downhill from here.
But maybe this will be just enough to counter-balance my wife’s opinion.
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Re: Self Magazine Sex

Postby digital_sinnah » Sun May 24, 2009 5:57 pm

very interesting approach - devoting 30 mins a day to your S.O seems like a fair deal. I like it. Habits are curious and make for good research in psychology.

Any more developments with the research or the topic?
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Re: Self Magazine Sex

Postby kalall » Wed Jul 01, 2009 8:17 am

Really Man i read and enjoyed keep posting more that will help :)
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Re: Self Magazine Sex

Postby JOHNSON01 » Sat Apr 16, 2011 10:30 pm

Every day for the next 30 days, devote 30-60 minutes to talking, snuggling, cuddling, massage, and of course, sex with your partner. As the article accurately quotes me, “That time becomes sacred couple-intimacy time with no interruptions. The commitment to spend time alone together every day for 30 days will create the space for your sex life to blossom.”
If the trial doesn’t produce the results you want, you can begin a new 30-day trial of something different or return to the old habit.
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Re: Self Magazine Sex

Postby JOHNSON01 » Sat Apr 16, 2011 10:37 pm

first I did a double-take, wondering if it was a serious request. However, the writer explained that the article was intended to gather sex advice from unusual sources. I’d never given much thought to applying habit formation techniques to sex before, but I thought… why not? Habits play a significant role in physical intimacy.
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