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[Roxy]

Well it has been 9months since our little girl 'Ruby' was born and I must say our world has been turned upside!! All of a sudden 'our time' no longer exists. Between working, being a mum and the daily churn of life it seems that we have all of a sudden lost the passion and drive at the end of the day that we used to have! How am I supposed to do all these things, and then still feel sexy, glamours and turned on enough to make love a few times a week..... I need help!!

[Jenny]

Hey, I know completely what you mean. After my first baby my husband and I didn't have sex for 6 months. After childbirth you don't want much much coming out of or going into there again. Over the next 18mths, we got back into the rhythm again. But it was cause for some tension for a while. It's hard being a mum, that's just a fact. But what I forgot was that it's hard being a dad too. I'm glad we got through it. I love my husband, and our sex life, which is now just great.

[AexCN625]

Yeah, as a male, I know what it's like - my previous relationship collapsed because this played a large contributing factor. The time for each other just wanes away as your child is totally dependant on both of you. In some cases of my friends, they've had to wait for the chick's body to catch up with her mind before they could get back into the swing of things.

But it's about finding ways to nut it out until you can get back into it. Giving birth to an awesome life doesn't mean that you are deprived of certain things. You are only deprived of certain things at particular times.

My current and I now have different working shifts - she's a 9-5 person, I'm a 10pm-6am person. We have various ways of spending time together but also spending time alone, even if it's just in the room next door.

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[sunikele]

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