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[hunga121]

Just a few questions, things that are newer to me that I have never experienced before so I wanted to get some other mature womens input.

1) My girlfriend will not kiss me after I perform oral on her? I am willing to kiss her after she does it to me. How do all of you feel about this?

2) She also will not going down on me after we make love, unless I wash it off before hand.

3) Lastly, it isn't directly sex related but it bothers me. If any nudity is on the TV she looks away (guy or girl), she also looks away if women are dressed skimpy (ex: 2 piece bathing suits). It almost seems to me like she is a homophobe, maybe afraid if she saw this stuff she may like it? What do you guys think? Also, another pointer, to maybe help you understand her, she wears shorts and a tank top over her bathing suit cause she said she doesn't like to show skin.

thanks in advance to all of the mature replies. your help is appreciated.

[stacey]

Im not sure, but to me most of this is abnormal.
I love kissing guys after they have eaten me out. The faint taste of me on their tongue is a turn on.
Im not quite sure if this is what you mean. But i love feeling the moisture all over both of us after we have had sex, its awsome.
However, I semi understand the last thing. I don't have the best body, and so am a little envious of all the hot chicks on the tv with fantastic bodies. But I do still look, its amazing how good they look.
Hope this helps, sorry if it doesn't.

[AexCN625]

hey hunga121

to put my response in context, lemme tell you I'm a guy.

1:] From my experience, not every chick is into kissing guys after the guy performs oral sex. This could be due to them not wanting to get into contact w/ their own fluids. We all know (or should) there is a vast fluid difference between going down on a guy and going down on a girl. One of my ex's has claimed "How would you feel if you were to lick your own ejaculate?" or something to that effect. I can somewhat see what she's trying to put across. You may have to accept that she's just not into it.

2:] Similar to what I mentioned in #1. Not all chicks dig semen in their mouth. As a guy, I can understand why guys would like that to happen, or even to have the chance to climax on their partner's face, but for me personally, it's not something I would do due to personal preference. As for her, she also may simply be not into it.

3:] I can somewhat relate to her on this one. I too look away when a skimpy scene comes onscreen and if there's a sex scene happening or about to happen, I usually change the channel. For me, I'd rather not watch someone else getting action as I'd rather participate in it. For your partner, it could be as simple as being embarrassed to see that sort of thing.

Have you tried to have an open discussion with her?

[Jan123]

Hi Hunga121,
Firstly - welcome to the forum! My thoughts are as follows:
1) I agree with Stacey!! - I think the faint taste is quite the turn-on, but I can understand why some woman wouldn't like it
2) I certainly ask for a 'quick wash-down' after sex and before performing oral on my lover
3) Maybe your right - maybe she is a bit worried about looking at naked woman, becuase she may actually enjoy it! that doesn't mean that she is bi-sexual or a lesbian, it might just be a little fantasy thing, and maybe she doesn't want to recognise it!! Or of course, it might just simply make her uncomfortable!!

hope this helps

[digital_sinnah]

I am not sure if this discussion is still going but thought I 'd add my 2 cents worth

Like Jan - my S.O is more than happy to kiss, lick and suck my body parts after I have been in her (excuse the crude imagery - LOL!). I also would agree about bi or lesbian assumptions. She may not have those orientations - but sexual exploration is perfectly healthy! As for my situation, my beloved has finally admitted to me her bi curiosities (after 10 years of marriage) and has opened her self so much more in our sexual relationship ( me too...that's a whole other story ). I guess it shows that open communication goes along way. So....talk to her. Accept her insecurities and don't make fun of them. Show your understanding and listen to her and respect her but also help her understand her own feelings through talking and maybe experimenting!

[JennyJ]

Hi hunga121,

I'm new to this forum but I thought I'd give you my opinions on the questions that you had.

Firstly, kissing after oral sex, I can identify with your girlfriend on this on some levels, when I was younger it was certainly something that I found slightly 'icky' and wasn't very open too, but now days I'm much more comfortable with my body - and the juices it produces - so am happy to kiss my hubby after he's been done on me and as others have said the taste can be quite a turn on.

In answer to your second point - if my partner has orgasmed or been wearing a condom then I'd certainly ask for his intimate parts to be washed before I performed oral sex again - just makes it taste that much more pleasant!

If it isn't for religious reasons then your third point kind of says to me that you partner isn't confident with her body or her sexuality, which might also be why she's not happy to do the two things mentioned above. I wouldn't try to pressure her into doing anything that she isn't comfortable with, but reassure her that she is a sexy, beautiful woman and you might start to see her attitudes changing - worth a shot!

Hope that helps!
Jenny