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[widdle_shy]

Hi all


New to this forum and would like advice on a very sensitive subject.

Its been taboo for men for years and they don't seek help, but if we don't seek help we will continue to be sad and lonely.

A little bit about me............

Separated a little under a year ago and wasn't really looking, but have now found somebody really nice.

I have always in my opinion, had an issue with Premature Ejaculation (PE). My ex wife said it wasn't a problem, but with my new partner I can see it becoming an issue due to her experience over me and you can just tell that she is unsatisfied in bed.

Masturbation and Oral sex could last anywhere from 2 minutes to 15+ minutes, but as soon as penetration occurs, its gonna be over fairly quickly for me (within a minute usually)

I have rung the mens clinics etc, but the very expensive cost of thier treatments is off putting to say the least.

Yes I have talked to my partner about it, but I can sense she is not exacty being honest with her views, probably to lessen the emabarrasment she knows I have about it.


Has anyone else experienced this problem and have any of you tried sex pills to maintain an erection after orgasm or the use of a cock ring.

there is the other possability of it being in the mind as this has been a problem for the entire 20 years that I have been sexually active, to the point where sometimes it gets the better of you and orgasm occurs before you even get out of your pants.

Maybe hypnosis would help. Has anyone experienced Hypnotherapy??


Sorry if this is a story of disturbing nature or some of you feel it doesn't belong on here.

I'm putting out a plea for help to see if I can enjoy myself again without feeling like a right useless plonker and highly embarrased. on the verge of crying after sex now.


PLEASE OFFER YOUR ADVICE

Thanks

Tom

[Sarah]

Hi Tom, firstly can I say thanks so much for your honesty. It's great that you feel safe talking about it at the forum. Unfortunately there is not a lot of advice I can give you other than recommending you do talk to a medical professional. Even your GP might be able to give you some insight. PE and ED alike are relatively common and there are a lot of treatments available. So your GP might be able to give you an objective opinion to help you work out your options. You mentioned pills and cock rings as possible solutions. Due to the risk of product recall that can sometimes happen with herbal pills sold in the adult market Sexgear chooses not to stock such items - so cannot offer any advice on their success. However, some of our customers who experience occasional Premature Ejaculation episodes have documented success with cock rings. Cock rings work to restrict blood flow out of the penis so help you to maintain a firmer erection for longer. They are relatively cheap so would be worth a go! My other advice would be to try and establish honest communication with your partner about it. The last thing that you want (and the least helpful thing!) is for your P E to be the elephant in the room. I hope that people who have experienced the same difficulties can be as brave and post their stories here too

[AexCN625]

Hey Tom

welcome to the forum and I too want to say "big ups" for your honesty.

I have a friend who had experienced the same thing and what I'm about to say could be quite colourful so I apologise in advance if it offends.

When talking about this to my friend, she and I came up with several options and one that she explores is that her partner masturbates prior to having sex. It usually takes him around 10 minutes to "recharge" and that usually is taken up by foreplay. She said it has worked and their sex life improved a lot. She was very understanding of her partner's situation. They're even married now and still enjoying each other.

Hope that gives some little bit of help bud.

[kiwi4]

we have all had similar problems and we all like to forget when it happens.
have a go with herbal ignite have a look on the web nz company will refund if nothing improves
cock rings work great my missy loves putting my tackle into it's harrness
masturbation before may help but time taken to get the next erection could quiet long
a loving partner helps talk before it becomes a major problem