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[xochickxo]

Hey there - i am wanting to bring sex toys into my relationship, but im not quite sure how to bring the topic up! also what are the best toys to begin with... any advice would be great!!

[Sarah]

Hi there! I have a few suggestions. First - start small! You might want to start with something that isn't obviously a sex toy but will still be new and exciting like lingerie? If that goes down a treat then try something slim line with a gentle vibration (I would reccommend Mr Diamond) and just use during foreplay. Quite often couples will start using sex toys for the first time by beginning with a cock ring - because it is a good unisex toy. Anyway, the most important thing to do is to try to be open with each other. Sometimes you feel silly or embarassed bringing these things up for the first time but once the conversation starts flowing you'll usually find a way to both be comfortable. Thanks for being brave and asking your question here! Take Care

[AexCN625]

I had wondered the same about my relationship w/ my girlfriend. Although she's new to the sex scene, I wanted to see her opinion on sex toys and that seemed like a good indicator. Sometimes just talking about them, rather than talking about using them, would be a good indicator on your partner's views.

[Charlee]

A good way to bring up the topic with your partner might be to pick up a brochure from an adult store-I know JoannaG has then-and casually leave it on the pillow haha. But definately talk about it and set up some boundaries before buying anything-you don't want your partner to feel pressured into using bondage gear for example. Using toys with your partner is definately fun and rewarding, so however you go about it definately give it a go

[smokie93]

my partner approached me about using toys, he was in a horny mood and in a sheepish tone he just asked "how do feel about sex toys?" i was keen so he bought one for me. when your blatantly in the mood ask him how he feels, buy something small that doesn't necessarily look like a penis, something small and not intimidating like a egg and ask him to use it on you. let him no nothing could replace the real thing and he can stop at any time